Couples therapy

Couples therapy in Cluj and online

When the same arguments keep coming back, or you feel you have drifted apart, it can help to talk about it with someone outside the relationship. I work with couples at my practice in Cluj-Napoca or online, in English or Romanian.

One of you books the session and can add the other as a guest.

Portrait of Nora Lefter
How I work

A 90-minute session, for both of you

The usual therapy hour is too short for two people. In 90 minutes there is room for each of you to say what you need to say, and then to work together on what happens between you.

I am not on either side. My role is to help you hear each other and see what happens when communication gets stuck.

I am honest with you: I tell you what I notice, with care, even when it is not comfortable.

What couples come with
  • Arguments that keep coming back, always about the same things
  • Communication that gets stuck or turns into blame
  • Distance, loneliness within the relationship, less closeness
  • Broken trust
  • Big decisions: moving, children, money, family
  • The relationship with the families you each come from
Formats

Two ways of working

How we usually start

Standard

One 90-minute couples session every two weeks.

Optional

Intensive

One couples session a month, plus a weekly individual session with each partner. It fits when each of you also has personal things to work on that affect the relationship.

Each session is paid separately, at the prices below. We choose the right format for you together.

Evening slots

Evenings, between 18:00 and 20:00

It is hard for two working people to be free at the same time during the day. That is why I keep two evening slots a week for couples (Romania time).

Confidentiality

What stays between us

Everything we discuss in sessions is confidential, within the limits set by law. In the intensive format, when I also see each of you individually, we agree together from the start how we handle what each of you tells me separately.

the text about the secrets rule in the intensive format (what stays confidential when I see partners individually).

Training

Trained in couples therapy

I specialised in couples counselling through the training „Cuplul conștient. Știința dedicată cuplului” (The conscious couple) at Școala pentru Cuplu (2019, Cluj-Napoca).

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Pricing

Prices for couples

Prices for couples
ServicePrice (RON) / EURBook
Standard couples session (90 min)300 RON / 60 EUR
Extended couples session (120 min)350 RON / 70 EUR

EUR prices apply to couples living outside Romania.

Questions about couples therapy

How long is a session?

An individual session is 60 minutes and a couples session is 90 minutes. If you feel you need more time, we can work in extended sessions: 90 minutes individually or 120 minutes for couples.

Can I ask you something before the first session?

Yes, you can email me about scheduling, prices or how I work. What brings you to therapy, though, is something we talk about in the first session, where there is the time and calm it needs.

How often do couples meet?

Usually one couples session every two weeks. For couples who want a more intensive pace there is also an intensive format: one couples session a month plus a weekly individual session with each partner. We choose together what suits you.

Do you have evening appointments?

Yes. For couples I keep two evening slots between 18:00 and 20:00 (Romania time), because it is hard for two working people to be free at the same time during the day.

My partner is not sure about therapy. What can we do?

That is very common. You can come to a first couples session, where your partner gets to meet me and ask questions, and only then decide whether to continue. If they are not ready, you can also start on your own, with individual sessions.

First step

The first step is the first couples session

Choose a time in the calendar, in person or online, during the day or in the evening. In the first session we get to know each other and see together how we could work. If you have questions before, you can email me.